If there is one big lesson I have learned in the last couple months - it's be up front with the kids. I learned this first with drinking water. I use to think "my kids won't drink water". Then whenever they came home from Carolynn's she'd tell me they drank water no problem for her. Huh? So I stopped trying to sneak it in their cups and just told them - you need to drink some water, you can have juice later. And they accepted that answer and rank their water. Wow.
Back to the toys.
So, I said to Madi that I Wanted her to go through her toys and make two piles. One to keep and one to give away to other kids who don't have a lot of toys and would like some. I told her I was going downstairs and would come back up in a minute to check on her.
I could hear her hollering "mom! mom! come and look!"
Oh no. What did she do?
I was shocked that what it was she wanted to show me was that the bigger pile was for toys to give away. She was so proud of herself. There were some toys in there I had a hard time to give away (they're so cute, or fairly new, or in good shape, or expensive, or.....) - but she was generously giving away her best.
I have so much to learn from her. Today I was working on de-cluttering the kitchen (we're making an office upstairs so doing a lot of rearranging). We have three sets of dishes. So, decided I should give at least one set away. But it makes me sad - we picked these out on our wedding registry and can never replace them (because there's no more Eaton's) and even though colours have changed I still feel emotionally attached and even though they're chipped and some are broken and... and.... and....
I need to learn about giving things away joyfully from my girl.